We each have a God-given personality. Do you struggle with your personality? Are you wondering how in the world God could use someone like you?
If sarcasm was a girl, we would be best friends.
The kind where you run wild and get into more trouble than you care to think about.
And my sarcastic tone has certainly caused me some problems over the years.
There are times when I’m harsh and loud, and pessimistic and far too serious. The upside is that I am rarely offended by remarks made by others because I just assume they are as sarcastic in nature.
I have struggled almost my entire life with my personality. How in the world could God use me? I’m not anything like those good ol’ legendary Southern church ladies—you know, sugary sweet, soft-spoken, always humming a hymn, and consistently positive no matter how dire the circumstance. I never quite fit into any of those categories.
It wasn’t until I began to understand what God says about me that I could learn to release my anxieties about measuring up to some unrealistic standard for Godly women.
“For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb.” Psalms 139:13 NASB
How to embrace your God-given personality.
God’s word tells us He created us just the way we are—all our unique and quirky personality traits.
He formed our inward parts as we grew inside our mother’s womb, developing all the things that make us who we are. Whether it be blonde hair or brown eyes or freckles, and even our temperament and sense of humor.
Everything about us was formed by a God who knew us before we were even born. And not only did He know us, but He loved us before we took our first breath.
He created us with the very traits that we often try to hide, change, or get rid of, so He could use them to minister to others.
“So we, who are many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. Since we have gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, each of us is to exercise them accordingly” Romans 12:5-6 NASB
Each one of us is different because He intends for us to reach different people. I am not in community with the ones you have relationship and influence with, same as you aren’t connected with mine. We each have our unique qualities that enable us to serve God by ministering to the different needs of our own circle of influence.
Although God can and does use our personality for His work, we must be willing to allow the Holy Spirit to transform us so that we are able to minister out of love and hospitality towards others.
It is too easy to rest on the excuse, “this is just who I am.” We can’t let ourselves get lazy and fall into old habits.
We must always strive to operate in the spirit and represent God in a way that honors Him.
For me, that looks like not allowing my sarcasm to become harsh or at the expense of others nor let my seriousness becoming too overbearing when speaking on truths from God’s word.
As I allow God to continually refine me, He can use my tendency to be serious as a way to speak about being accountable to Scripture and to motivate others to be take their relationship with Christ seriously by not becoming comfortable and complacent, and to step it up when necessary.
The personality He created inside me allows me to shed light on hard truth, often with humor to lighten the blow, because of my tendency to be sarcastic and no-nonsense, not in spite of it.
You have a God-given personality.
God wants to use your personality, too. All of it.
The things you think make you odd, quirky, or just not good enough, God wants to use it to reach someone who needs your unique brand of Jesus so they can see His goodness in their lives, too.
Don’t be afraid of who God made you to be. Embrace His handiwork and allow Him to do something amazing through you.
“I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.” Psalms 139:14 NASB
Stephanie K Adams is the founding Director of Real Women Ministries, where she equips women with resources for Bible Study and prayer. She is passionate about helping women find time for God’s Word in the midst of their busy lives.
Stephanie is a Board Certified Advanced Christian Life Coach and author of In the Shadow of the Cross: Following Jesus Through His Last Days and is a contributing author to Bearing Fruit: Living Rooted in Christ.