I had planned to keep silent about this. I didn’t want to be just another blogger lost in the void of cyberspace trying to talk about the appropriateness vs. the inappropriateness of the release of “50 Shades of Grey”.
There are endless opinions and blog posts addressing this topic. From those who are trying to ‘redeem’ the content by placing it inside the confines of marriage to those who are advocating against violence and exploitation against women. And, quite honestly, those articles are much better written than anything I could ever hope to write.
I understand people want to take what is culturally relevant, put a Biblical twist to it and apply it to the ever-growing conversation of Christian marriages in conflict.
Every marriage, including mine, has endured good and bad. And we should always be actively seeking ways to love each other better, bigger and deeper.
Jesus is the perfect example of how to love. He humbled Himself and served those He loved.
[Jesus] rose from supper. He laid aside his outer garments, and taking a towel, tied it around his waist. Then he poured water into a basin and began to wash the disciples’ feet and to wipe them with the towel that was wrapped around him. John 13:4-5;
He never took to fulfill Himself, rather He sacrificed Himself for His bride.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Ephesians 5:25
While I won’t continue in the unending controversy surrounding Mr. Grey and his ‘extra-curricular’ activities, I will tell you what it is like to be married to a man that loves with all his heart. He gives and doesn’t take.
He protects — never once in 27 years has he raised a hand to me. He has never threatened me with harm, of any kind. He makes sure our home and cars are safe for his precious cargo.
He provides — he has worked long, hard hours at jobs where he was overworked and underpaid. He makes sure there is food on the table, lights and heat are always on and no one goes without their needs…or their wants.
He serves — my husband has loved me through the worse times of my life. Physically carrying me when I didn’t have the strength to raise my head after a particularly bad chemo treatment. He has folded laundry, cleaned the kitchen, washed dishes and made sure the coffee is stocked and ready to go early each morning. (And, if you know me, having my coffee ready is the only thing I ever really need)
He honors — he does not speak unkind about me to others. He praises my efforts in raising our kids and running the household.
He laughs — he makes sure that I never get too serious. He reminds me to lighten up and have a good time; to lay aside the worries and enjoy time together.
He prays — he covers our marriage and our kids in prayer every day. His heart aches for what hurts us and longs for us to see the fulfillment of our dreams.
He loves — he leaves me each morning and greets me each evening with a kiss. That is over 16,060 kisses not including leap years and all the other kisses in-between!
The list is endless; yet it can all be summed up — he gives.
Don’t let yourself be drawn into a quick-fix, everybody-is-doing-it fairy tale targeting unhappy women in the name of harmless entertainment with the goal of making a few million dollars.
These writers have done a fantastic job writing about ’50 Shades of Grey’ and I know they would love to have you as a reader. **If you have a blog post you would like to add to this list, please contact me and let me know**
My personal favorite:
Becky Thompson at Scissortail Silk — Christian Women and Christian Grey
Amy Sorrells has a great post and also lists several organizations that support women survivors of domestic/sexual abuse and sexually deviant behaviors — Five Ways to Honor Survivors (plus a book giveaway)
Marshall Segal at Desiring God — Fifty Shades of Nay: Sin Is A Needle Not A Toy
Gail Dines, Huffington Post: **Graphic wording** — Fifty Shades of Grey…First Prize for False Advertising